Greetings from Mag.a Barbara Prammer, President of the National Assembly
Ladies and Gentlemen,
Daily problems, loneliness, mental disorders are the most common causes for people to contact the telephone counselling service. Those who call are often confronted with violence in many ways. Whether it is physical, psychic, social, economic or sexual violence – all forms of aggression lead to the loss of self esteem and the inviolability of human life which reduces the self respect of the individual. It is infinitely important that these victims not be left alone – and those who answer the phone in the telephone counselling service are the critical first contact point.
Eighty per cent of these counsellors are women.
And two-thirds of those who call are women.
Sometimes it is women who are victims of aggression within their own four walls and who have never talked to anyone about their problems since they are unaware that domestic violence is a widespread problem and that, during the course of their lives, one in four women will be confronted with violence at least once in the relationship with their partner.
Often it is sexually abused girls and women, who feel completely alone, who look within themselves for the mistake and who have come to believe that they are responsible for having incited the perpetrator of the violence – who feel guilty and ashamed for what was done to them – women whose personality has been deeply wounded, who suffer mental trauma, the results of which heal very slowly.
Your reaction to these calls is especially significant. For the manner in which these people are received establishes the basis for dealing with their traumatic experiences on a continuing basis and, most importantly, how much more further treatment will be accepted.
Immanuel Kant said “Not being able to see separates one from objects. Not being able to hear separates one from people.” All of you are not only able to hear, you also have the important talent to be able to listen. An ability that, I believe, has been lost by many – or else was never learned. Thereby lies a reason why many conversations are no longer dialogues - only alternating monologues in the presence of others.
The ability to listen to others with empathy, together with social and emotional engagement, is the basis for your valuable activity. Furthermore, these qualities must serve as the basis of our society, if we wish to continue to live in a democratic manner.
"Listen for Peace – through the Discovery of Alternatives to Violence" – is the Motto of the IFOTES-Congress 2010. I wish you much success in this venture – every individual step that leads to a less violence-prone society is important and valuable.
I am pleased that the Congress will make your work – especially that of the many volunteers amongst you – more visible and honoured. Be assured of my deepest respect for this demonstration of active solidarity on behalf of society.
Sincerely,
Barbara Prammer
President of the National Assembly